Real Life Romance

I'm sure we have all read story's where 2 people who are best friends realise that they are actually madly in love with each other and start a relationship. However in real life falling in love with your best friend is never that simple.

So I fell for my best friend and it was just like in the story's.
Other people see it and you constantly deny it saying you just don't see them that way and then suddenly like a tonne of bricks falling on your head you know that those people were right all along and that you do have feelings for them. You then go through a faze where you try and convince yourself that you are wrong or try and stop having feelings for them by saying to yourself that they would never return those feelings. Finally after going over and over and over these things in your head you realise that they are your best friend and you have to tell them how you feel (in may case a substantial amount of alcohol helped in the telling part). That's when you find out that they feel the same and didn't want to say anything for the same reasons you didn't and you laugh or cry or just make out for quite a while or if you're really overcome by the moment engage in all three of those activities.

I guess this all sounds fabulous and just like love stories however what love stories don't take into account is that when the main characters confess their feelings for each other, is the possibility that a relationship between these 2 people just cannot work.
Now some my see this view as cynical or that I'm not putting enough faith in love but I truly believe the decision that we made was, in the end, the only decision that meant we would remain best friends. We together agreed that us being in a relationship was just not going to work. The reason behind this is one if we had a bad break up we could destroy our friendship group and I value my friends more than anything else in the world but mainly it would destroy us. I wasn't willing to lose what I had for sex; as essentially that was all I gained.

Now don't misunderstand me, the chose I made was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, I mean its one thing for someone else to ripe your heart from your chest its a totally different thing to do it to yourself but I knew it was for the best.

Can you see the one thing that love stories don't take into account? The definite consequences of being in a relationship with your best friend as a teenager, the chances are that relationship wont last and if it doesn't you will (most likely) never go back to the way you were before.

SO we were not harry and sally (not only because neither of us orgasmed in a cafe) but because we didn't end up together, and I am happy, I did not turn into a depressed mess but continued with my life as I had knowing I would always have that person I loved by my side if I needed them never having to worry that a break up may ruin that.

However all that being said I don't think our love for each other will be purely platonic, I mean it didn't just happen like "I love you" "I love you too" "This is never going to work" the end. Certainly I do still get the urge to jump their bones, I am human after all. So maybe our love story hasn't reached its final chapter yet but I certainly think it has but any other ending would never have been happy

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